Your hair can never be overrated with Monicah

Hello mane embracers, I hope your crowns are flourishing and your skin glowing. Thank you for stopping by and welcome to my what’s natural hair to you series featuring Monica Kalyonge

Who’s Monica… a person and a naturalista(lazy natural, all protective styles and styling natural etc)

Monica is a simple human who loves flavored tea, chocolate and dancing. In terms of natural hair, I am a somewhat lazy natural. I like to be effective. I normally opt for simple hairstyles like braid outs and when it’s time, I just throw my hair in a bun. I wouldn’t say I am much of a protective style person nowadays. I used to be though, back when my hair was shorter.

What was the inspiration behind embracing your natural hair

I embraced my natural hair because I was inspired by images online of women wearing their hair proud. I also find it less stressful to have healthy natural hair. At this point, I have incorporated the natural hair lifestyle into my life so it’s just become something I do.

What’s ‘perfect’ hair to you?

‘Perfect’ hair is healthy hair.

What advice would you give to naturals struggling with natural hair/those stuck on the same length like forever

I would tell them to reevaluate their regimens. Sometimes your hair needs you to switch something up in order for you to see progress. If your goal is length, perhaps you should consider making protective styling a big part of your regimen if it’s not already. If you already protective style regularly then check how you take care of your hair while protective styling.

If you wear a lot of wash and go’s and notice that you always get single strand knots and split ends then perhaps switch to stretched styles which reduce the risk of your hair tangling up on itself. In summary, evaluate our regimen and alter as required. Also, don’t obsess over your length. Enjoy each stage.

Which is your protective style and why?

Box braids simply because they are the most convenient for me. The style allows me to put whatever color I want on while allowing me to access my scalp and hair easily. I do also do weekly protective styles like fancy buns. These tend to last me a week or so.

Ever got a mean comment about your hair or found yourself in a situation where your hair was labelled unofficial?

In the initial stages I would get mean comments. I started in 2014 and the movement hadn’t really caught on in my environment. People thought I wanted to do locs, others thought I was obsessed with my hair because I actually took care of it. On some level I understood that their comments came from a point of ignorance but it did affect my esteem.

I have never been told though that my hair is unprofessional. By the time I was getting into that professional environment, way more people were embracing their hair. My hair was also long so it was a point of fascination for whatever reason. Then again, I am in the creative field and this allows me to be a bit more free with how I wear my hair.

Tell us about your YouTube channel, the inspiration behind it, its purpose and how often do you post.

My YouTube channel is me just throwing my creativity out there. I don’t really have a specific direction that I am moving in. However, I do incorporate things that I love. I do love hair and some of the videos there represent that love. I am trying to figure out where I want to take it. As for posting, I can’t comment. Once I feel I have gotten some rhythm, my life goes in a funny direction and I can’t concentrate on it as much as I would love to. I’ll figure it out though, no pressure.

If you were to wear one style for the rest of your life, which style gets lucky.

The one style would have to be a braid out. I can do a braid out in my sleep!

Do you think natural hair is overrated?

No, I don’t think it’s overrated. How can your own hair be overrated? I just think as a society at large we still suffer from internalized standards of beauty that are not ours. There is nothing overrated about how natural hair grows out of your head. However, that is no basis for anyone to judge anyone for how they choose to wear their hair. I am happy to see that we are unlearning and slowly headed in a more self accepting direction in terms of hair.

What’s your top 5 tips you can swear by?

  1. Prepoo
  2. Wash your hair
  3. Deep condition
  4. Low manipulation hairstyles
  5. Leave your hair alone if you can

Signing out remarks/comments.
Love your hair as it is. Don’t compare it to anyone else’s. Once you accept your hair as is and see the beauty in it, you will learn to let it flourish in it’s own way. What you choose to do with it from there (cut it, loc it, relax it etc) will then come from doing what actually works for you, not from a point of feeling like your hair is substandard.

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Everything Tangles and how to properly detangle Type 4 Natural Hair.

Tangles! Tangles! Tangles! Let’s talk about causes of tangles and how to properly detangle even the worst tangles. Long time no post but here we are. Hello ManEmbracers, I hope your hair is growing and skin glowing. Welcome to my blog and be sure to keep it here for hair care tips. Let’s talk about tangles for a minute but first, is your hair always tangled? Here is why. Tangles and knots can be such a pain but can be minimized. How to minimize tangles. Keep your hair moisturized. Moisturize properly and regularly. Let go of damaged and split ends. Don’t keep your two strand twists for too long and re-twist when you notice your roots are getting fluffy after cleansing. Detangle properly  Consider low manipulation styles to wearing your hair out Wear low manipulation & protective styles on stretched hair. Pat your hair with an old t-shirt/ towel to absorb the water after cleansing or use a microfiber towel. Avoid vigorously rubbing your hair with a towel. Essential detangling tools. Spray bottle Hair clip or scrunchies Wide-tooth comb Micro-fiber towel Conditioner/ Detangler Detangling brush How to properly detangle/ ultimate detangling steps. Work with sections. First, section into smaller parts. Detangling smaller sections is easier and not as time consuming. Start with damp hair. Spray water on your hair until damp. Add a conditioner/ detangler with a good slip to smoothen the tangles. Start detangling from the ends to the roots with your fingers. Don’t snap off the tangles, slowly separate the strands from the tangle. Comb with a wide tooth comb from the ends to the roots of each section then run it through your entire length. You can also use a detangling brush to detangle. Twist / braid or clip the detangled section and repeat the same for all other sections. Detanglers & conditioners to check out / purchase. TGIN Quench 3-in-1 Co-Wash Conditioner and Detangler SheaMoisture Raw Shea Butter Extra-Moisture Detangler Aunt Jackie’s Curls and Coils Knot On My Watch Instant Hair Detangling Kinky-Curly, Knot Today, Natural Leave in / Detangler Oyin Handmade Oh My Glide! Prestyling Detangler Taliah Waajid Curls, Waves & Naturals The Great Detangle Marini Naturals 3 IN 1 Leave-In Conditioner  Saru Organics Tea Tree And Peppermint Detangler SHETH NATURALS Detangling Instant Conditioner Share with the tribe your detangling tips and detangling products and tools that have worked for you.

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Natural hair Styles; 5 Easy to achieve styles.

I did a thing guys. Your girl is on a mission to try new styles and up her styling game. Hello Mane Embracers, I hope your hair is growing and skin glowing. Welcome to my blog and be sure to keep it for healthy hair care tips and tricks. Flat twist-out Afro I did another thing, installed flat twists as my low manipulation style for a week or so and the flat twist-out turned to an Afro. I love wearing my Afro or may be I love it because my styling game is 👎👎👎. Either way we all agree that afros are cute. Bun & bangs. First, I uploaded a tutorial on Facebook and Instagram, be sure to check out. It’s an easy to achieve style. Got no time to figure out how style your hair? Well, this style is for you. Bun & flat twist Same bun but flat twisted the bangs & the look gave me some ‘ hey there, praise and worship & good gal vibe.’ It’s an official look, easy to achieve style & a less than 5 minutes style. Low puff & twists. I live for high puffs but side puffs are okay too. I loved the look & the twists were, “hide my forehead thing.” Hello fellow gals with a big forehead & heart. Twists & tucked twists. Turned the low puff to chunky twists and pinned them. For a moment I thought I had locs but they don’t look like locs though. The IT style. How gorgeous is this style? I would love to know which of the styles is your favorite.

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