My Natural Hair Journey: The perfect twist-outs, Shrunken Afros, Tangles & Frizz

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Welcome to my natural hair the good, bad and ugly version. My natural hair journey isn’t a fancy or inspiring one but it’s an educating worth a read one.

They all label their story ‘going natural’ but mine is embracing my natural hair. My hatred for heat and salon dates got me embracing my kinks, the pulling, the nail scratching during washing and sitting for hours during braiding. I just dreaded salon dates big time.

I just woke up on day and decided to stay off salons, figure out how to care for my mane by myself without cutting an inch of it. Weird enough I wasn’t updated on the natural hair community or know of anyone embracing their natural hair so I had to do the research.

Researching was hella hectic, too much info that I couldn’t wrap my head around it and the products were either international based or Kenyan based and expensive.natural hair journey

I decided am going to start with what I had at the time(Afro comb, wide-toothed comb, nice and lovely avocado oil, laundry bar soap as my shampoo and coconut oil(which I didn’t own BTW it was my bestie’s I would borrow cause I realized my hair loved it).

Everything I had worked out for my hair probably because I couldn’t afford to buy all those products. As you start embracing your curls, kinks don’t stress much about the products and what not, begin your journey with the products you have or can afford as you learn and unlearn stuff about your hair.

My first product to purchase was a leave-in conditioner. I would always wet my hair like dripping wet wrap a towel to absorb some of the water then once damp I would seal with an oil until I learnt about hydrating/moisturizing conditioners.

Learnt moisturizing is all about spritzing your hair with water, add moisture boosting conditioner and seal with an oil and my hair was always super soft. That’s when my mind was fully made up am in this for the long haul.

I know shrinkage is a sign of healthy hair but how am I supposed to show off my long mane? Over time I learnt to love my shrunken Afro, shorter twists and twist outs. Appreciate your hair in every state.

Some days you will have the perfect twist outs some days frizz will have you not feeling your mane and the wind will give you all sorts of tangles and styles you didn’t create but you got to learn to switch up the bad to good.

One thing this journey has taught me is patience and the art of learning and unlearning what you knew and the fact that I will keep purchasing bobby pins and hair bands cause of a ghost that seems to need them more than I do.

Have learnt not to compare my hair and not all products will work on my hair. Find what works best for your hair and stick to it and if you are the adventurous kind, do you boo.

Four years later and my hair is still thriving, with a few big chops, hated and loved it in equal measures and still on this journey to waist length. Had to start this blog to record my hair journey, inspire ladies to embrace their manes, share ideas, experiences, easy your hair journeys and love on our beauty hair. Welcome to my journey and let’s share our experiences, ideas and so on.

Everything Tangles and how to properly detangle Type 4 Natural Hair.

Tangles! Tangles! Tangles! Let’s talk about causes of tangles and how to properly detangle even the worst tangles. Long time no post but here we are. Hello ManEmbracers, I hope your hair is growing and skin glowing. Welcome to my blog and be sure to keep it here for hair care tips. Let’s talk about tangles for a minute but first, is your hair always tangled? Here is why. Tangles and knots can be such a pain but can be minimized. How to minimize tangles. Keep your hair moisturized. Moisturize properly and regularly. Let go of damaged and split ends. Don’t keep your two strand twists for too long and re-twist when you notice your roots are getting fluffy after cleansing. Detangle properly  Consider low manipulation styles to wearing your hair out Wear low manipulation & protective styles on stretched hair. Pat your hair with an old t-shirt/ towel to absorb the water after cleansing or use a microfiber towel. Avoid vigorously rubbing your hair with a towel. Essential detangling tools. Spray bottle Hair clip or scrunchies Wide-tooth comb Micro-fiber towel Conditioner/ Detangler Detangling brush How to properly detangle/ ultimate detangling steps. Work with sections. First, section into smaller parts. Detangling smaller sections is easier and not as time consuming. Start with damp hair. Spray water on your hair until damp. Add a conditioner/ detangler with a good slip to smoothen the tangles. Start detangling from the ends to the roots with your fingers. Don’t snap off the tangles, slowly separate the strands from the tangle. Comb with a wide tooth comb from the ends to the roots of each section then run it through your entire length. You can also use a detangling brush to detangle. Twist / braid or clip the detangled section and repeat the same for all other sections. Detanglers & conditioners to check out / purchase. TGIN Quench 3-in-1 Co-Wash Conditioner and Detangler SheaMoisture Raw Shea Butter Extra-Moisture Detangler Aunt Jackie’s Curls and Coils Knot On My Watch Instant Hair Detangling Kinky-Curly, Knot Today, Natural Leave in / Detangler Oyin Handmade Oh My Glide! Prestyling Detangler Taliah Waajid Curls, Waves & Naturals The Great Detangle Marini Naturals 3 IN 1 Leave-In Conditioner  Saru Organics Tea Tree And Peppermint Detangler SHETH NATURALS Detangling Instant Conditioner Share with the tribe your detangling tips and detangling products and tools that have worked for you.

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Natural hair Styles; 5 Easy to achieve styles.

I did a thing guys. Your girl is on a mission to try new styles and up her styling game. Hello Mane Embracers, I hope your hair is growing and skin glowing. Welcome to my blog and be sure to keep it for healthy hair care tips and tricks. Flat twist-out Afro I did another thing, installed flat twists as my low manipulation style for a week or so and the flat twist-out turned to an Afro. I love wearing my Afro or may be I love it because my styling game is 👎👎👎. Either way we all agree that afros are cute. Bun & bangs. First, I uploaded a tutorial on Facebook and Instagram, be sure to check out. It’s an easy to achieve style. Got no time to figure out how style your hair? Well, this style is for you. Bun & flat twist Same bun but flat twisted the bangs & the look gave me some ‘ hey there, praise and worship & good gal vibe.’ It’s an official look, easy to achieve style & a less than 5 minutes style. Low puff & twists. I live for high puffs but side puffs are okay too. I loved the look & the twists were, “hide my forehead thing.” Hello fellow gals with a big forehead & heart. Twists & tucked twists. Turned the low puff to chunky twists and pinned them. For a moment I thought I had locs but they don’t look like locs though. The IT style. How gorgeous is this style? I would love to know which of the styles is your favorite.

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