My Natural Hair Journey: The perfect twist-outs, Shrunken Afros, Tangles & Frizz

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Welcome to my natural hair the good, bad and ugly version. My natural hair journey isn’t a fancy or inspiring one but it’s an educating worth a read one.

They all label their story ‘going natural’ but mine is embracing my natural hair. My hatred for heat and salon dates got me embracing my kinks, the pulling, the nail scratching during washing and sitting for hours during braiding. I just dreaded salon dates big time.

I just woke up on day and decided to stay off salons, figure out how to care for my mane by myself without cutting an inch of it. Weird enough I wasn’t updated on the natural hair community or know of anyone embracing their natural hair so I had to do the research.

Researching was hella hectic, too much info that I couldn’t wrap my head around it and the products were either international based or Kenyan based and expensive.natural hair journey

I decided am going to start with what I had at the time(Afro comb, wide-toothed comb, nice and lovely avocado oil, laundry bar soap as my shampoo and coconut oil(which I didn’t own BTW it was my bestie’s I would borrow cause I realized my hair loved it).

Everything I had worked out for my hair probably because I couldn’t afford to buy all those products. As you start embracing your curls, kinks don’t stress much about the products and what not, begin your journey with the products you have or can afford as you learn and unlearn stuff about your hair.

My first product to purchase was a leave-in conditioner. I would always wet my hair like dripping wet wrap a towel to absorb some of the water then once damp I would seal with an oil until I learnt about hydrating/moisturizing conditioners.

Learnt moisturizing is all about spritzing your hair with water, add moisture boosting conditioner and seal with an oil and my hair was always super soft. That’s when my mind was fully made up am in this for the long haul.

I know shrinkage is a sign of healthy hair but how am I supposed to show off my long mane? Over time I learnt to love my shrunken Afro, shorter twists and twist outs. Appreciate your hair in every state.

Some days you will have the perfect twist outs some days frizz will have you not feeling your mane and the wind will give you all sorts of tangles and styles you didn’t create but you got to learn to switch up the bad to good.

One thing this journey has taught me is patience and the art of learning and unlearning what you knew and the fact that I will keep purchasing bobby pins and hair bands cause of a ghost that seems to need them more than I do.

Have learnt not to compare my hair and not all products will work on my hair. Find what works best for your hair and stick to it and if you are the adventurous kind, do you boo.

Four years later and my hair is still thriving, with a few big chops, hated and loved it in equal measures and still on this journey to waist length. Had to start this blog to record my hair journey, inspire ladies to embrace their manes, share ideas, experiences, easy your hair journeys and love on our beauty hair. Welcome to my journey and let’s share our experiences, ideas and so on.

Why deep conditioning your Type 4 Natural Hair is Essential for growth of healthy hair.

Whether your hair feels healthy, don’t skip the deep conditioning step. Hello ManEmbracers, I hope your hair is growing and skin glowing. Welcome to my blog and be sure to keep it here for everything hair care. To my loyal ones & day ones welcome back.  What’s deep conditioning? Deep conditioning is an essential wash day step that involves applying a moisturizing and/or protein treatment  to restore moisture, improve elasticity, repair and strengthen hair, reduce breakage and split ends. Experiencing dry, damaged hair and a lot of breakage and shedding? Well, about time you invested in a moisturizing and protein deep conditioner, both are essential for growth of healthy hair. Deep conditioners are also referred to as; hair mask, reconstructors, deep treatments, penetrating treatment, deep masque etc. Deep Conditioner Types. There are 2 deep conditioner types ;  Moisturizing deep conditioner (restores/ retains moisture and improves elasticity)  Protein deep conditioner (repairs damage, strengthens the hair minimizing breakage and damage) Balanced deep conditioner (works as a moisturizing and protein treatment 2-in1 deep conditioner) Each of the deep conditioners has specific ingredients that you should look out for when purchasing. For moisturizing deep conditioners, look out for products with humectants & emollients & protein deep conditioners must have amino acids, hydrolyzed proteins etc. Moisturizing Deep Conditioners for Type 4 Dry Natural hair. Why protein treatment is essential for Healthy Type 4 Natural Hair. Why deep condition? Restore moisture after cleansing. Improves hair elasticity Adds or restores natural shine. Repairs and prevents damage. Strengthens the hair minimizing breakage and split ends. How to deep condition. Start off with freshly washed hair. Detangle, use your favorite shampoo to cleanse & thoroughly rinse off the shampoo. Dry your hair until it’s damp  Section your hair & apply the conditioner from the ends to the roots of your strands on each section. Ensure every strand is coated with the hair mask, detangle with your fingers then use a wide tooth comb to properly get rid of the tangles. Twist each section after  applying the deep conditioner. Wear a shower cap, thermal cap to infuse the conditioner nutrients in your strands. You can also warm up the deep conditioner before application, make sure the conditioner isn’t too hot, just warm. Leave the conditioner  for 30 minutes to an hour, you can leave it overnight (the downside of this is you might over moisturize your hair) Rinse off with cool water & if after rinsing your hair feels moisturized, softer & manageable, the deep conditioner has done its job. Deep conditioning Tips. Always aim at maintaining the moisture-protein balance for growth of healthy hair. Heat is important for deep conditioning, it opens up the cuticle for the nutrients to penetrate. Deep condition with a moisturizing deep conditioner every time you deep cleanse your hair. How often you use protein treatments depends on the state of your hair, how often you use heat and manipulate. Don’t overdo it, letting your deep conditioner sit on your hair overnight consistently might lead to over conditioning or hygral fatigue. How often do you deep conditioner and what tips have worked for you?

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Why protein treatment is essential for Healthy Type 4 Natural Hair.

When was the last time you deep conditioned with a protein based conditioner/ protein treatment? We rarely talk about protein deficiency or even complain about it. Hello ManEmbracers, I hope your hair is growing and skin glowing. Welcome to my blog and be sure to keep it here for everything hair care. To my loyal ones & day ones welcome back. Protein based deep conditioners are as important as the moisturizing deep conditioner because maintaining the moisture- protein balance is essential for growth of healthy hair, minimize breakage, repair damage and strengthen the hair. Our hair is made up of keratin, a protein which due to daily manipulation, use of heat, chemicals, colors and environmental stressors get worn out. Protein treatments come in handy to fill the gaps left by the worn out keratin. Keratin keeps your hair strong thus minimizing breakage and hair shedding.  How often you use protein treatment depends on the amount of damage , manipulation, if you’ve recently colored your hair, amount of breakage you’re experiencing and how your hair feels. How to tell your hair needs protein; Hair is highly porous- absorb & release moisture faster than normal. Hair looks limp, lacks the bouncy look & looks dull. Hair lacks its elasticity. Hair feels gummy or sticky Increased breakage & shedding. Which ingredients should you look for in a protein based deep conditioner? Hydrolyzed proteins are the main ingredients to look for when purchasing a protein based deep conditioner. Why hydrolyzed proteins? Because hydrolyzed proteins have been broken into smaller particles that can be easily absorbed & they include Hydrolyzed soy protein Hydrolyzed wheat Keratin Hydrolyzed silk Hydrolyzed oat flour Collagen Lipids Amino acids Protein treatments for type 4 hair Aphogee Keratin Reconstructor Product Promise, “APHOGEE Two step protein treatment is a serious treatment for seriously damaged hair. It rebuilds broken damaged hair. Rebuilds hair structure within six weeks. Ideal for Permed, tinted or relaxed hair. Stops hair breakage” Product Review, “The best protein treatment for curly hair” Tropic Isle Living Jamaican Black Castor Oil Protein Conditioner Product Promise, “Perfect as a deep-conditioning treatment, this conditioner infuses moisture, shine, and strength into the hair follicle. Natural proteins strengthen hair to decrease frizz, improve volume, and increase hair growth.” Product Review, “I would definitely recommend this product to my friends. It is a wonderful protein treatment for your hair.” ApHogee Intensive 2 Minute Keratin Reconstructor Product Promise, “Prevents breakage and split ends. Antioxidant green tea protects hair. Adds body for easier styling.” Product Review, “It works great as a light protein treatment for my natural hair. It doubles nicely for a deep conditioner. Great purchase.” Shea Moisture Manuka Honey & Yogurt Hydrate + Repair Protein-Strong Treatment Product Promise, “This masque treatment powered by reparative proteins and butters, in a nutrient-rich strengthening cream to naturally reinforce and revitalize over-processed, abused hair fibers, while reducing breakage up to 76%” Product Review, “Perfect protein treatment for my fine damaged curly hair.” How do you maintain the moisture – protein balance & which protein treatment works for your hair?

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