The start of a new year is the perfect time for couples to reflect, dream, and set goals together. Creating shared aspirations not only strengthens your bond but also gives your relationship a sense of purpose and direction. Whether you’re aiming to improve communication, deepen intimacy, or achieve individual milestones while supporting each other, these 100 goal-setting questions for couples can help you build a stronger, more connected relationship.

Grab a journal, a cozy blanket, and perhaps a cup of tea, and start your journey to a brighter future together. To make this process even more enjoyable, consider investing in some relationship-building tools, like couples journals or goal planners available on Amazon. (I’ll share a few recommendations throughout the post!)

We also have some cute cards with the questions below which you can download, stick to your journal as you answer them. Find more conversation cards, game cards on our store here. Find these kind conversation on other blog posts.

Why Goal-Setting is Important for Couples

Setting goals as a couple offers numerous benefits, including:

1. Improved Communication: Discussing your dreams and aspirations encourages open and honest conversations.
2. Stronger Connection: Working towards shared goals fosters teamwork and partnership.
3. Enhanced Support: Understanding each other’s individual goals allows you to provide the encouragement your partner needs.
4. Alignment of Values: Identifying priorities together ensures you’re both heading in the same direction.
5. Celebrating Success Together: Achieving goals as a team brings a sense of accomplishment and joy.

Ready to get started? Here are 100 questions to guide your discussions.

100 Goal-Setting Questions for Couples

Relationship Goals

1. What is one way we can improve our communication this year?
2. How can we make more time for each other in our busy schedules?
3. What are some activities we’d like to try together?
4. What traditions can we start or continue as a couple?
5. How can we show more appreciation for each other?
6. Are there any habits we want to build or break together?
7. What does a healthy relationship look like to us?
8. How can we better resolve conflicts when they arise?
9. What is one thing we can do to deepen our emotional connection?
10. What are our priorities as a couple this year?
11. What is one small way we can surprise each other more often?
12. How can we create a more romantic atmosphere at home?
13. What is one new tradition we can start for anniversaries?
14. How can we ensure our arguments are constructive and respectful?
15. What can we do to celebrate each other’s individual successes better?

Recommendation: “The Couple’s Financial Workbook:” — A practical guide for managing finances as a team.

Financial Goals

16. How can we better manage our finances together?
17. What are our savings goals for this year?
18. Are there any big purchases we want to plan for?
19. How can we reduce unnecessary expenses?
20. What’s one financial habit we want to adopt?
21. Do we want to start or increase contributions to a retirement fund?
22. How can we support each other in reaching individual financial goals?
23. Are there any debts we’d like to pay off this year?
24. What’s a fun financial goal we can work towards, like a vacation?
25. How can we improve our financial literacy together?
26. What is one item we could save for that would bring us joy?
27. How can we simplify budgeting to make it less stressful?
28. What is one unnecessary subscription or service we can cancel?
29. How can we balance spending on needs versus wants better?
30. What is one way we can give to a cause we care about?

Health and Wellness Goals

31. How can we support each other in staying healthy?
32. What fitness activities can we do together?
33. Are there any health-related habits we want to build?
34. How can we prioritize mental health as a couple?
35. What’s one healthy recipe we’d like to try?
36. How can we make self-care a regular part of our routine?
37. Are there any wellness challenges we’d like to take on together?
38. What’s one area of our health we’d like to improve?
39. How can we encourage each other to stay motivated?
40. Do we want to try any new relaxation techniques, like yoga or meditation?
41. What’s a fun physical activity we can do outdoors?
42. How can we ensure we get enough rest and downtime?
43. What’s one new superfood or supplement we’d like to incorporate?
44. How can we stay active even on our busiest days?
45. What is one wellness retreat or spa day we could plan?

Recommendation: “The Five-Minute Journal” — A daily gratitude and reflection tool to help you stay aligned.

Personal Growth Goals

46. What skills or hobbies do we want to learn this year?
47. How can we encourage each other’s personal growth?
48. What books or podcasts can we explore together?
49. Are there any courses or workshops we’d like to take?
50. How can we celebrate our individual achievements?
51. What’s one fear we want to overcome this year?
52. How can we create a supportive environment for personal development?
53. Are there any habits we want to change?
54. What’s a long-term dream we can start working on now?
55. How can we inspire each other to step out of our comfort zones?
56. What is one motivational quote or mantra we’d like to adopt?
57. How can we make mornings more productive together?
58. What’s one new skill that could improve our daily lives?
59. How can we track our growth and reflect on progress?
60. What’s one inspirational figure we’d like to learn about?

Adventure and Fun Goals

61. What’s one place we’ve always wanted to visit?
62. How can we add more spontaneity to our lives?
63. What’s one adventurous activity we’d like to try together?
64. How can we make date nights more creative?
65. Are there any local attractions we’ve never explored?
66. What’s a new hobby we can start as a couple?
67. How can we make mundane tasks more enjoyable?
68. Are there any concerts or events we’d like to attend?
69. What’s one thing we can do to bring more laughter into our lives?
70. How can we celebrate milestones in a fun way?
71. What is one unexpected activity we’ve never considered?
72. How can we incorporate seasonal activities, like apple picking or ice skating?
73. What’s one DIY project we could tackle together?
74. How can we create a playlist of songs that represent our relationship?
75. What is one photography or art project we could start?

Recommendation: “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Guided Journal“ — A tool to align personal growth with shared values.

Family and Social Goals

76. How can we strengthen our relationships with family and friends?
77. What traditions do we want to establish with our loved ones?
78. How can we better support each other’s families?
79. Are there any volunteer opportunities we’d like to take part in?
80. How can we nurture our social circle?
81. What’s one way we can give back to our community?
82. How can we balance time between our relationship and social commitments?
83. Are there any family goals we’d like to set?
84. How can we celebrate special occasions with loved ones?
85. What’s one way we can create lasting memories with our family?
86. How can we keep in touch with friends who live far away?
87. What’s one gift or gesture we can make for a family member?
88. How can we be more inclusive of friends in our plans?
89. What’s one family tradition we’d like to start or revive?
90. How can we create opportunities to host gatherings or dinners?

Spiritual and Reflective Goals

91. How can we create a shared mindfulness or meditation practice?
92. Are there any spiritual traditions we’d like to explore together?
93. What is one way we can show gratitude daily?
94. How can we practice forgiveness more openly?
95. What’s one mantra or affirmation we’d like to focus on this year?
96. How can we better align with our core values?
97. What is one reflective activity, like journaling, we can do together?
98. How can we bring more peace and balance to our daily lives?
99. Are there any inspirational talks or workshops we’d like to attend?
100. How can we support each other in building a deeper sense of purpose?

Tips for Successful Goal-Setting

1. Set SMART Goals: Ensure your goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound.
2. Review Regularly: Schedule monthly or quarterly check-ins to track progress.
3. Be Flexible: Life happens, so be open to adjusting your goals as needed.
4. Celebrate Wins: No matter how small, celebrate your achievements to stay motivated.
5. Keep It Fun: Use tools like vision boards or fun apps to make the process engaging.

Final Thoughts

Goal-setting as a couple is a beautiful way to connect, dream, and grow together. By asking the right questions and creating actionable steps, you can strengthen your bond and build the life you’ve always envisioned. Start the new year with intention and watch your relationship flourish.

Recommendation: “The Couple’s Bucket List Journal“ — A fun and interactive way to plan your adventures and dreams together.