Making friends as an adult can feel a little awkward, right? Unlike childhood or college days when friendships formed effortlessly, adult friendships require a bit more intention. Between work, responsibilities, and personal growth, it’s easy to feel like you’re navigating a solo journey. But guess what? You’re not alone in this!

The key to forming meaningful connections is conversation—the kind that goes beyond small talk and into the realms of shared experiences, dreams, and laughs. That’s where this list of 100 unique and interesting questions comes in. Whether you’re at a networking event, joining a new club, or simply hoping to deepen a new friendship, these questions will help break the ice and create a bond.

Oh, and if you’re looking for journals, conversation card games, or books to help you along this journey, I’ll drop some recommendations throughout the post and at the end.

100 Questions to Make Friends as an Adult

Getting to Know Each Other

1. What’s one thing you wish more people knew about you?
2. What’s your favorite way to spend a weekend?
3. Do you have a personal ‘comfort movie’ that always lifts your mood?
4. What’s a random fun fact about you that most people don’t know?
5. If you could instantly master one hobby, what would it be?
6. Are you more of an early bird or a night owl?
7. What’s your go-to coffee/tea order?
8. What’s something small that makes your day instantly better?
9. If you could have any job in the world for a day, what would you choose?
10. What’s a song that describes your current life phase?

Deepening the Connection

11. Have you ever had a turning point in life that changed your perspective?
12. What’s one piece of advice you’ve received that really stuck with you?
13. If you had to describe your personality in three words, what would they be?
14. Do you consider yourself more of an optimist, realist, or somewhere in between?
15. What’s one thing you’ve learned about yourself in the last year?
16. If you could have dinner with your younger self, what advice would you give them?
17. What kind of legacy do you hope to leave behind?
18. How do you typically handle stress?
19. What does “home” mean to you?
20. Have you ever had a life-changing travel experience?

Adventures & Experiences

21. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
22. If we could go on a trip together, where would you want to go?
23. What’s a bucket-list item you’re determined to check off?
24. Have you ever gone on a solo trip? How was it?
25. What’s an experience you think everyone should try at least once?
26. What’s the coolest thing you’ve ever seen in nature?
27. Would you rather explore space or the deep ocean?
28. Have you ever done something just for the adrenaline rush?
29. If money wasn’t a factor, what would your dream vacation look like?
30. What’s the most unexpected place you’ve made a friend?

Hobbies & Interests

31. What’s your go-to creative outlet?
32. Do you prefer books, movies, or podcasts?
33. Have you ever taken up a hobby just for fun and ended up loving it?
34. What’s a hobby you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?
35. Are you more into physical activities (sports, gym) or mental ones (chess, puzzles)?
36. What’s a skill you admire in other people?
37. Have you ever met someone who completely changed how you see the world?
38. Do you prefer deep conversations or lighthearted banter?
39. If you could instantly learn a language, which one would it be?
40. Are you more of a planner or a spontaneous adventurer?

Funny & Lighthearted Questions

41. What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever done just for fun?
42. Have you ever had an embarrassing moment that turned into a great story?
43. If you had to be trapped in a TV show for a month, which one would you pick?
44. What’s the weirdest food combination you secretly love?
45. If we had to survive a zombie apocalypse together, what role would you take on?
46. Do you have any strange or irrational fears?
47. If you could swap lives with a fictional character for a day, who would it be?
48. What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever overheard?
49. If you had to eat only one cuisine for the rest of your life, what would it be?
50. What’s the most unusual pet you’d consider owning?

Friendship & Relationships

51. What do you value most in a friendship?
52. How do you like to celebrate your wins—big or small?
53. Do you have any friendship traditions you love?
54. What’s one way you like to show appreciation for friends?
55. How do you recharge after socializing?
56. Are you more of a group hangout person or a one-on-one coffee chat person?
57. What’s your ideal way to spend a self-care day?
58. Have you ever had a friendship that changed your life?
59. What’s your love language when it comes to friendships?
60. If we became best friends, what’s something I should know about you?

Personal Growth & Future Dreams

61. What’s one goal you’re working on right now?
62. Have you ever made a big life change that scared you but was totally worth it?
63. If you could give your future self a message, what would it be?
64. How do you usually get yourself out of a rut?
65. What’s a mindset shift that improved your life?
66. What motivates you to keep going when things get tough?
67. Do you have a personal mantra or quote you live by?
68. What’s one lesson you’ve learned the hard way?
69. If you could design your perfect life, what would it look like?
70. What’s a challenge you faced that made you stronger?

Would You Rather (For Fun!)

71. Would you rather have unlimited time or unlimited money?
72. Would you rather always be 10 minutes early or 30 minutes late?
73. Would you rather have a rewind button or a pause button for life?
74. Would you rather explore the past or see the future?
75. Would you rather live in the mountains or by the beach?
76. Would you rather be known for your kindness or your intelligence?
77. Would you rather have a personal chef or a personal stylist?
78. Would you rather have a job you love with little pay or a job you hate with lots of money?
79. Would you rather never use social media again or never watch movies again?
80. Would you rather always have to whisper or always have to shout?

Recommendations for Making New Friends

1. “We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Strong Friendships” by Kat Vellos – A fantastic book on deepening adult friendships. Check it out here.
2. “The Icebreaker Deck” – A set of conversation starters to make meeting new people easier. Grab it here.
3. “Friendship Journal” – A guided journal to reflect on and nurture friendships. Find it here.

Final Thoughts

Friendships don’t have to be hard, even in adulthood! Use these 100 unique questions to spark meaningful conversations, break the ice, and form lasting connections. So, what’s the first question you’ll try?